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PEACEBUILDING CONFERENCE & CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

The CCI program has changed my life dramatically, it has made me to be an open-minded person and to view life differently than I ever did before I got to United States. On the 25 of October 2018 I have attended the Alliance for Peacebuilding’s annual conference PeaceCon 2018. It was my first time in my life to attend such an amazing, and educating conference were people from various countries come together with a same objective of promoting peace.

Sibusiso as a volunteer at the Alliance for Peacebuilding Annual Conference

On that day I felt very important after the conference because I have gained mutual understanding pertaining the importance of peace. I have attended two sessions, the first session was based on how to resolve a conflict in places such as working environment, School, and within the community. I have met with different people that day, as a result I have accumulated up building ideas as well as making connection with different people. I was highly motivated by one guy from South Sudan, he created few games that are designed to promote peace. He told me about his background and the fundamental reasons why he came into senses of developing games that seek to promote peace. I am enthusiastically and highly motivated to start my own restaurant intended to promote peace, for example, I am going to provide variety of cuisine in the same restaurant with a motto that says welcome home. These are some of the component I have learned in order to resolve a conflict:

  • Remain calm, tempers will stand in the way of working through your differences. After all, the goal is making peace with one another, not getting revenge. Respectfully communicate to them, through a mediator if necessary, that you should both take some time to calm down. Then agree on a time and a place to discuss and resolve your conflict.
  • Be willing to understand what went wrong and try to come up with a solution.
  • Understand the background of various people, because we all have different opinions, values as well as culture.
    We should bear in mind that people have different personalities.
Sibusiso with Lual Mayen, Founder of Junub Games.

On the 30th of October 2018 I have attended workshop at NOVA Community college.
I have learned varies aspects that makes people to end up in dispute or conflict, the first reason is that we see things from different point of view. We were given few complicated pictures to identify anything could we see, what transpired is people gave different opinions that could stir up a dispute. However, we learned that we should respect the opinions of others and give our own views in such a way that we do not offend other feelings. I took two tests to examine my personality and I found I am an Amiable person, therefore I read all amiable qualities and I found that they match my personalities. I learned about other three personalities which are Analytical, Driver, and expressive. The primary reason of that test is to keep us aware that people are different, so we need to bear in mind when we work with them. This workshop opened my eyes wide now feel like I am ready to present this information when I return to my home country.

Based on all experiences that I have learned here in the U.S. I am eagerly looking forward to sharing them in my home country when I return home.

Post written by Sibusiso Chipeta from South Africa, a 2018-2019 CCI participant at NOVA-Annandale.

Conflicts Condemmed

“Tolerance and celebration of individual differences is the fire that fuels lasting love. “ -Tom Hannah

Do you know when the conflict arises? It arises when we have different thought about the same thing. To avoid conflicts; we need to know how to manage it. To get knowledge about that, our beloved coordinators arranged a workshop on conflict management. It was a one-day workshop took by Mr. Paco Valencia.

The class started like this; we were divided into 4 groups. Each group was a mixture of 8 different international CCI Program participants. Before the class, we took an assessment called MBTI Personality Assessment. This assessment was used to classify us under two major categories- 1) Extroverts and 2) Introverts. Majority of the people came under the group extrovert. Even I was in the extroverts. Only a very few came under the category introverts. Mr. Paco explained why we fell into these categories and explained what it is. From that moment, we went deeply into other categories like sensors (S), iNtuitives(N), Thinker(T), Feelers(F) etc.,. These minor categories gave us in depth knowledge about the individual thinking style and reacting style to the varying situations. We played small games to get to know about the categories.

With the knowledge which we gained with the previous activities, we played a game after our lunch break. This game was conducted to know what we have learnt so far in that workshop. The game was like, thinking that we only three sticks or woods to cross the river without touching the water. We were again split into 3 teams and used the sticks which was provided to cross the river. We enjoyed this game as well as learned a lot of stuff. The thing which I learnt is: trust is the chain which holds the entire team to accomplish the single goal.

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After this game, we understood what is a teamwork and how cooperate with heterogeneous group to reach the objective. We spoke about the game in the class, and heard some feedbacks about the game.

After few minutes of speaking about the game, we moved on to the next topic. We took another assessment to know how we solve the conflict(Conflict solving style). He gave us a two page sheet to circle some options. After doing all the circles he gave us a solution handout. With the help of that we were instructed mark ourselves to the corresponding fields. For me, it came out like competitive and avoiding conflict solving styles. This conflict solving style gave so much idea about me, and gave some valuable comprehension about the group in which I am in.

We came to the end of our workshop at 4 in the evening. This workshop enriched with lots of information about the varied people who are around me and in this entire world. Last but not the least, I would like to thank my coordinators and CCI Program for giving me this wonderful opportunity to know how to manage the conflict, and to fine-tune myself in the heterogeneous group.  I have learned one important thing in this workshop, we have to put ourselves in other shoes to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings.

Post written by Halith Syed Mohamed, CCI Program participant at NOVA 2016-2017, India