Healthy Relationships Week! Tip: What is an Abusive Relationship?

Abusive relationships come in all different shapes and sizes. If your partner doesn’t let you wear certain things or gets upset when you wear certain clothing in public, that is abuse. If your partner gets upset at YOU when other people give you attention you may not have wanted, that is also abuse. Physical violence isn’t the only form of abuse. To find resources or get more information on domestic violence (dating/partner violence), visit To contact a 24 hour NOVA Sexual Assault Services coordinator for free confidential support, please call 703.338.0834 or email

In celebration of Valentine’s Day NOVA SEXUAL ASSAULT SERVICES (known as “SAS”) will be visiting the Manassas, Loudoun, Woodbridge, Annandale and Alexandria NOVA Campuses to share information on Healthy Relationships. Stop by our table where you can gather information on HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS and create your own handmade Valentine’s Day Cards for family, friends or that special someone in your life for free!



Manassas – Thursday, Feb 7th from 10-2 – Howsman Cafeteria
Loudoun – Monday, February 11th from 11-2 – LC Cafe
Alexandria – Tuesday, February 12th from 11-2 – Bisdorf Cafeteria
Woodbridge – Wednesday, February 13th from 10:30 – 1:30 – WAS Café
Annandale – Thursday, February 14th from 11-2 – CA 3rd Floor

Hope to see you there and bring your friends!

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Clothesline Project at Annandale Campus 10/11/18

Participating in NOVA Sexual Assault Services Clothesline Project at Annandale Campus to raise awareness about sexual assault and domestic violence.

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NOVA SAS Project – Vision Wall: Imagine a World Without Sexual Violence!

Imagine a World Without Sexual Violence!  What would be different????  Stop by our outreach events this semester and let your voice be heard on our Vision Wall!  Just write a note (it’s anonymous) to be added to the Vision Wall on what the world would be like without sexual violence.

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Help us spread awareness and show support to victims and survivors by participating in The Clothesline Project. Happening at the MEC today (October 3) and tomorrow from 10am – 3pm!



National Domestic Violence Awareness Month is an annual designation observed in October. For many, home is a place of love, warmth, and comfort. It’s somewhere that you know you will be surrounded by care and support, and a nice little break from the busyness of the real world. But for millions of others, home is anything but a sanctuary. The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are victims of physical violence by a partner every year.

Every 9 seconds, a woman in the U.S. is beaten or assaulted by a current or ex-significant other.

Here’s another shocking statistic: the number of U.S. troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 is 6,488. The number of women that were murdered by current or ex-male partners during that same time frame is 11,766, according to the Huffington Post. That’s almost double the number of people that were killed fighting in war. People who are in an abusive relationship will stay with their partner for a number of reasons:

-Their self-esteem is totally destroyed, and they are made to feel they will never be able to find another person to be with.

-The cycle of abuse, meaning the ‘honeymoon phase’ that follows physical and mental abuse, makes them believe their partner really is sorry, and does love them.

-It’s dangerous to leave. Women are 70 times more likely to be killed in the weeks after leaving their abusive partner than at any other time in the relationship, according to the Domestic Violence Intervention program.

-They feel personally responsible for their partner, or their own behavior. They are made to feel like everything that goes wrong is their fault.

They share a life. Marriages, children, homes, pets, and finances are a big reason victims of abuse feel they can’t leave.


Use #DomesticViolenceAwareness to post on social media. Sometimes, people don’t know if they are really in an abusive relationship because they’re used to their partner calling them crazy or making them feel like all the problems are their own fault. Here are a few ways to know if you’re in an abusive relationship that you need to get out of.

  1. Your partner has hit you, beat you, or strangled you in the past.
  2. Your partner is possessive. They check up on you constantly wondering where you are; they get mad at you for hanging out with certain people if you don’t do what they say.
  3. Your partner is jealous. (A small amount of jealousy is normal and healthy) however, if they accuse you of being unfaithful or isolate you from family or friends, that means the jealousy has gone too far.
  4. Your partner puts you down. They attack your intelligence, looks, mental health, or capabilities. They blame you for all of their violent outbursts and tell you nobody else will want you if you leave.
  5. Your partner threatens you or your family.
  6. Your partner physically and sexually abuses you. If they EVER push, shove, or hit you, or make you have sex with them when you don’t want to, they are abusing you (even if it doesn’t happen all the time.)


Domestic Violence Awareness Month evolved from the “Day of Unity” held in October 1981 and conceived by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The “Day of Unity” soon evolved into a week, and in October of 1987, the first National Domestic Violence Awareness Month was observed. In 1989 Congress passed Public Law 101-112, officially designating October of that year as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Such legislation has been passed each year since.

As this month comes to an end, the important discussion it brings to the forefront about domestic violence’s horrific repercussions should not.

If you are experiencing domestic abuse, please click here for help. If you are in danger, call 911.


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Have You Seen the OEMS Lip-Sync Video Yet? It’s all about “Stayin’ Alive”!!!!

Have You Seen the OEMS Lip-Sync Video Yet? It’s all about “Stayin’ Alive”!!!!


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Brighter Days Concert and Workshop at the AL Campus on 9/26, 2-4PM, AA196

NOVACares and NOVA SAS invites you to join us for this special event at the AL Campus on Wednesday Sept. 26th from 2-4 in Room AA-196.

Performance. Writing, and Conversations About Power and Inclusion.

Co-sponsored by NOVA Sexual Assault Services and NOVA AL Braden Center

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Welcome Back to NOVA! This is going to be a great year!

NOVACares wishes to welcome everyone to the NOVA Fall 2018 semester. We hope that this is a great experience for all. And remember if you “See Something, Say Something” by completing at NOVACares report. You may report an incident 24/7 on the web by visiting and click on the blue box: “Report Concerns”.  If you need an immediate response ON CAMPUS, please call NOVA Police at 703-764-5000 or if you are OFF CAMPUS dial 911.

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Tip of the Week: Safety First!

Be Safe at NOVA:

The safety of students, faculty, staff, and visitors at NOVA is top priority. We want to create and maintain a safe, secure environment where learning can flourish. Each campus is staffed with police and public safety officials, emergency preparedness plans and a system for notifying students of campus closures due to inclement weather or other safety issues.
If you see something, say something and help save yourself or someone from becoming a victim of an assault.

The NOVACares Office provides assistance, resources and interventions to members of the NOVA community. You can report your concerns to NOVACares office by submitting an online report to NOVACares Reporting Form. To know more, visit

Other resources available at the college:

Campus police: Call the NOVA Police dispatch to request information or police services, report a crime or file a complaint.
For emergencies dial 911. For non-emergencies dial 703.764.5000.

Stay Informed: Sign Up for NOVA Alert to stay informed about an emergency (school closings, weather, crime, etc.) by getting text messages to your cell phone and email.

Download LiveSafe App
LiveSafe allows you to report tips or request emergency services anonymously from NOVA Police; send your location to NOVA Police; let friends or family monitor your movements; share your concerns and suggestions with NOVA Police and have critical safety information at your fingertips.
Click here for more information.

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NOVACARES Tip of the Week

Have A Safe Spring Break!

Spring Break is around the corner and many students are planning to travel somewhere to relax. Spring Break is fun because you are away from the stress of college and enjoy yourself. However, Spring Break can lead to an unfortunate incident if you aren’t careful.

Here are some ways to avoid trouble and make your Spring Break memorable:

Be careful with drinks: Do not take drinks from strangers who may have intentions of hurting you or the ones around you. Only take drinks from bar tenders or servers. Do not leave your drink unattended. Do not drink and drive.

Protect your belongings: You are an easier target of pickpockets when you are on vacation. Keep track of your card transactions to ensure no one has access to your bank accounts. Only take required cash, bank cards, and IDs with you and leave the rest in your suitcase hotel’s safe.

Look out for each other: You should always plan with your friends about how you will stay in touch with each other. If you feel your friend is uncomfortable around someone or at a party, suggest that it is time to leave and escort your friend to a safe place.

You have the ability to be an active and responsible bystander. Bystander intervention aims to prevent various types of violence including bullying, sexual harassment, sexual assault and intimate partner violence. When you see something that you think is not right, say something, do something and/or get others’ attention to help prevent violence.

To learn more about bystander intervention, visit
Contact NOVACares for questions and concerns at or visit

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Tip of the week: Suicide Prevention

Suicide is a serious health issue nationwide that causes immense amount of pain and suffering to individuals and their family members. Several factors that can trigger suicidal thoughts are loss of loved ones, substance abuse, mental illnesses, and violence. Suicide prevention helps find ways to lower the risk factors that can cause suicidal thoughts and increase factors that provide help, support, and prevent individuals from committing suicide.
PRS Crisis Link Hotline is a local hotline that helps with suicide and stress in Northern Virginia. You can call the hotline to talk to an empathic person who cares about you and your loved ones and wants to help you. If you feel you or your loved one is in danger of hurting themselves call 703.527.4077. The professionals provide free & confidential services 24/7. The hotline can also help you find referrals to mental health and other community services
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline provides free and confidential support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24/7 across the United States. Call: 1-800-273-8255
To know more about suicide prevention, visit us online at

“Ask for HELP to fight another day”

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